Song: “Capsize” by Frenship
One night, I was sitting around trying to think of a tangible way to find out whether a person is a good friend, or has no potential to be a positive influence in my life. For this test, rank the person in question from 1-10 in each category. I have figured the person will need at least a 30. This is not an inquiry of you. It’s an internalized dialogue I have with myself. This also only applies to me, and not necessarily to everyone else. You can just substitute the most important qualities you value in a friend/partner.
Dependability: Can I count on you? Am I going to get shafted or will you be there for me as I will for you? Note: not in a literal sense, it’s more of a support thing
Interests/Hobbies: What are you into? Can I relate to you? Can we find common ground?
Music: If you have shitty taste in music, we can’t be friends. Period. We don’t have to like the same things, but you better not put on country or bad rap.
Comfortability: How at ease am I with you? Can I be myself or do I feel like I am being judged? Do we appreciate the same humor and morbidity?
Depth: Are you a bland and dry person that no one can hold a conversation with? Life stories and lessons learned? Can you have a deep two-hour conversation at midnight? Has life dried you out or do you roll with the punches to let yourself exist without limits? Note: this is the most important quality, it superscedes all others. If a person does not have much depth, I have a very hard time being friends with them.
For every person that I tried this on, it seemed to work. The toxic people that have left my life got a low score. My closest friends got up into the forties.
Good friend: 10/5/7/10/8 score-40/50
Bad friend: 2/7/6/4/5 score-24/50